10 Signs Your Online Date Could Be The Real Deal

Online dating can be a mindfield.  How do you separate the genuine from the dud ones?  No straight answer there, just make sure you have your intuition hat on.

But there are some great ones out there, right?  Marriages have been known to form from online dates! So when dating someone, how do you know he could be the real deal?  You don’t have friends to veto them out, no work colleagues to give you the low down, and you only know so much from google-ing them (By the way – thank god for Linkedin!).  So here are some signs to look out for that he could be a keeper:

1.     He pays for the first three dates.   Of course, you should always offer but a gentleman wants to appear chivalrous and make a great first impression.

2.     He doesn’t flinch when you mention the following words: weddings, marriage, babies, engagements, commitment, homeowner, love, romance, long-term and serious.

3.     You talk about things you like and he agrees with you.  Even better, he talks about things he likes and you agree with him.  There is nothing like finding things in common with that ‘me too!’ moment.

4.     He makes all the arrangements for the dates.  He books the restaurant/picks the bar, picks a time, collects you or organises transport home – separately of course.

5.     He doesn’t invite himself back to yours after each date, trying his luck.

6.     He calls and texts when he says he would.  And they can be short or long messages as long as he asks you how your day was!

7.     If it happens to be your birthday, he had better take you out to dinner or lunch or make some other effort of similar ilk.

8.     He is not afraid to talk about his goals, the future, what he has planned for the weekend, what his next holiday may be.  Anyone afraid of forward planning – chuck!

9.     He looks into your eyes while making love and holds you in his arms after making love.  Altogether now – aaaaahhhh!

10. He simply makes you laugh.  Without trying.  Enough said.

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In the Dog-House

  When invited to dinner for a second date by a nice, friendly, professional guy who I met online, I thought, well, what do I have to lose, right? Wrong! 

  It started off well.  He made all the arrangements, kept me in the loop about timings and where to meet.  When we met, he complimented me on my dress, we shared pleasant chit-chat over dinner, the ambience was great and I was excited about hitting the dance floor showing him some of my salsa moves.  Then during dinner, after a few drinks – it came.  He called me a bitch!  Now I’ve been called some things on dates like ‘sweet’, 'funny’, ‘sexy’, but never ‘bitch’!  He added it on the end of his sentences like “So, shall we order another bottle of wine…….biiittccchhh?!” 

  Excuse me? I said to myself.  This is where I went wrong in hindsight.  I giggled at first, going along with his strange humour and this may have encouraged him to continue.  So more sentences followed by ‘biiiiitttccccch!’ at the end.  Now,  I really don’t think I look like the female dog kind!

  The more he continued, the more I retracted and thought, please get me out of here.  Just as I was about to make my escape, another strange behaviour trait appeared.  He began to flick my head!  Like how you might flick a bug away from your clothes; he was doing this on my head!  And it hurt!  “Ok, can you stop that, because it actually hurts”, I said.

“Oh, you poor princess!”, he said.

Princess is better than bitch, I thought.

A Princess Bitch!